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A Lesson on Talking to Yourself

Posted by iusbvision on October 9, 2006

We are in full and utter control of our feelings. This is because our feelings are simply manifestations of our own thoughts. With this said, to change our feelings we must change our inner dialogues. Whether we are aware of it or not, we have conversations with ourselves on a regular basis. In fact, I believe that we talk to ourselves so often, that it is time we learn more about what we should be saying.

We should treat ourselves internally as well as externally, just as we would treat anyone else.  Our self image and feelings come from the reactions and feedback that we receive from those around us, and particularly from ourselves. I believe that too many people, especially women, are extremely and unnecessarily hard on themselves.

Phrases not uncommon to many of our inner dialogues may include, “I can never do anything right”, “I am so ugly”, or “I have nothing”. We would never verbalize such harsh words to a friend or even a stranger, and to go a step further, if these callous words were ever uttered towards us by another we would most certainly take offense. If we allow our inner dialogues to be disrespectful towards ourselves, how can we expect any more from other people? The fact that no one can hear our inner dialogues does not justify being disrespectful towards ourselves. 

Changing the way we think requires a re-training process called thought replacement. Thought replacement requires recognizing negative thoughts and correcting them by replacing them with constructive ones. When we find ourselves thinking, “I have nothing”, we can recognize the fact that we are being derogatory towards ourselves and replace that harmful thought with a positive one, such as, “I am thankful for everything that I have in my life”. We do not have to be prisoners to our own thoughts, we are in control.

Life is what we think it should be and for a more positive life, it is imperative that we start thinking in a positive manner.  A positive attitude can help us overcome the daily toil of every day life. Positive thinking may be viewed as too simplistic to some, but I believe that incorporating this philosophy into our lives will bring constructive changes that will make us happier and more successful individuals.

Erica Vicsek

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